Re: This may be goodbye..

Dear PXTRM,
I'm so sorry to hear things have gotten so bad, then gotten even worse.
They sound as if you're too tired to even make good decisions, much less
solve money problems. This isn't the right time for you to act on anything.
I honestly would go to an ER and tell the doctor exactly what you've told
us. Just let him know that you are quite determined to end your life. That
ought to get their attn. and allow them to treat you for depression, maybe
even for pain. But whatever you do, you must get to a safe place fast. You
need professional care and evidendence that you are currently unable to
fulfill your financial responsibilities.
You must know that you cannot kill yourself over depression or finances.
Suicide is practical for conditions which cannot get better, like end stage
cancer. You have a son who will never be able to deal with how you end your
life if he thinks his child support had anything to do with your dicision.
Even if you must go to jail for a little while, you will get health care
there. It's not a great situation to be in, but if you kill yourself, you
don't ever get to find out what happens to your wife and son. It's not fair
to them. How would you feel if you got the call tonight that your son had
given up and hanged himself over money woes? Wouldn't you rather he run away
than kill himself? Do anything but suicide. There are no second chances if
you take that way out. This is a very lousy time in your life, perhaps the
worst, but how can it get better if you don't stick around to find out if
you win the lottery?
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. When it all seem like too much,
just remember that doing nothing is far more brave than ending everything.
It's also much more generous than the alternative.

Thinking of you,
Cabbi



"PAINxtreme" <daver35@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:1183147461.154259.113220@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
It has certainly been a great experience knowing all of you. Right now
I have an arrearage of 1800 bucks of child support on my 20 yr old
son. This was accumulated during a period of unemployment in 1997-98,
and since my disability. Othe than those times I have always paid. in
kansas you pay the court, they pay the ex spouse, so they can monitor
it. anyway, since i have zero income and assets, I can only offer to
pay it in full when and if social security pays. however, im due to go
to court on a bench warrant on july 13th, which luckily enoough is a
friday, and a day i cannot get transportation. my wife's only days off
are mondays, so i suppose she will have to call in sick. anyway,
without a way to pay them, and only a future chance of paying them, im
likely to go to jail...it wont be good, it will leave 3 kids at home
alone while my wife works, i dont know how i will get to my dr appts,
if at all....will i be put in general population where i could not
defend myself? and of course, how does any of this help in any way to
pay the amount behind. my 20 yr old son said he would go with me to
tell them i have always given him plenty while i was able....i gave
his band 2 thousand dollars worth of equipment shortly before my
disability...but who knows if that will help.

question: does social security pay my family no matter the manner that
i were to die?...because it would solve all the worries of my family,
and my sanity if i were to just die...my wife and kids would get
income to live on. i wouldnt have to endure any more suffering...pain,
fear of jail, paranoia of public, period. Ive always held to my faith,
but i dont feel like i can just keep holding on thru all the beatings
im taking. Im sure others have been thru worse, but i just dont have
the strength or will to keep this going.....any smartasses out there
that want to talk of my weakness, fine.
im past the point of caring while spiteful people have to say, its
only more on the pile.....anyway, im going to go lay down now, bye



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