Re: My bombshell - slightly O/T, sorry

On Fri, 02 Dec 2005 19:17:59 GMT, "Ted Rogers" <ted@xxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

>Hi All
>
>Everyone has been so kind and helpful in the past - I just wanted to tell
>someone my news.
>
>I've had chronic back pain since 1998 and have been on meds since then.
>Depsite that I have managed to hold down a job and raise a beautiful 3 1/2
>year old daughter. My wife of 6 years has been very supportive to me and a
>rock.
>
>But, today she told me she wants to leave me. I'm not the person I was,
>apparently, and she wants out. She also wants to take my daughter from me
>and although she'll be living locally it won't be the same.
>
>So, I'm devastated and although there must be plenty in the same boat as me
>it doesn't make it any easier. Its broken me and now I wonder, at 46, what
>else there is to look forward to.
>
>Apologies for feeling sorry for myself
>
>Ted
>
Well sounds like you have a pretty good reason for feeling a little
sorry for yourself. Did your spouse give you any specific reason for
wanting to move on? Is she tired of listening to you complain about
your pain (I know mine is). Or is it over financial issues?

If she has been supportive up until this time what event triggered the
change in heart? Have you sat down with her and talked the issues
through? Women love to talk ya know. Have you been to self-focused
on your medical issues or the raising of your little girl while
neglecting the wife? Some women can be extremely high maintenance and
don't like taking the backseat.

All in all you need to figure out the triggering event. If she won't
tell you straight out you may have to read between the lines. Don't
be surprised if she tells you that you've been self-absorbed and not
paying her enough attention. Especially if she says something like
"You should have seen this coming".

--
Zombywoof

Si vis Pacem, Para bellum
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