Re: Good God, What Happened to this Group?

Dear Legend,
your response was very kind, far kinder than I believe I deserve. I will
never believe that I don't have an agenda, myself, but I'm trying not to
impose it on the group or anyone else.
I don't think I deserve the praise you afforded me, but if we could all
take your attitude of acceptance before we replied to the group, we might
not be at odds with each other.
For God's sake, we're all here because we're in pain and we need each
other's help to find solutions or support in order to deal with the hell
that chronic pain exacts on each of us. Doesn't that make us all family and
not just family, but family with the same desires, direction and
understanding of what must be done for the larger group of us who suffer
from untreated or barely treated pain. Isn't that our purpose for existing
in this Cyber World sub system of information? Can't we just get back to
that and ignore the bull*** we may not have in common. That belongs in
another NG.
I know I'm a Pollyanna, and I don't fucking care anymore. This is something
that needs to be done before we lose our reason for existing. We must move
up and move on.
I know, blah, blah, blah...
Cabbi
"Legend_of_53" <legendaryrambler@xxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> by "Cabbi" <cabbi@xxxxxxx> Oct 23, 2005 at 10:23 PM
>
>
> Look,
> I have no creds to criticize anyone. I'm no one's idea of the ideal
> moderator or leader.
> But I have a question. What happened to the "support" part of this
> group? It seems to me there is a lot of type spent on attacking one
> another,
> a bit of type dedicated to spreading helpful news to pain sufferers. Yet
> most of the posts are attacks on other sufferers. When did it become
> vogue
>
> to attack one another regarding their pain, whether it be physical or
> emotional, in responding to this group? I'm all for more personal posts,
> but
> I can't abide blind items of attack from one member or another, simply
> because we may disagree. That renders this group impotent. All I'm seeing
>
> these days is constant sniping and bitching, blaming others for our own
> short comings. What kind of improvement can we expect from this type of
> conversation? If we continue to tear away at one another, we won't have
> an
>
> ASC-P. I'm beginning to think that is not such a bad idea. How sad.
>
> Cabbi
>
> __________________________________________________
>
> I know what you mean, Cabbi. From what I hear, these things go in cycles.
> Right now, the lengths of the threads tell the story-the ones where
> someone asks a straightforward, honest question are the ons with 3 or 4
> answers, while where the ones where someone is ganged up on easily reach
> over 20 posts, with a few recent ones ("pain killer identity" "White
> man;s Problems") going over 100!
>
> I'm just emerging from being a "newbie" with a year or so behind me; I was
> told that this time of year is usually a bad one, for some reason.
>
> I've found out that mot of my own problems in the group have been caused
> by unfair debate tactics by one other person; no, this isn't the beginning
> of a flame, just an explanation that some people are just out to use
> certain others, and sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away.
>
> But YOU, Cabbi, voice of compassion, zealously guard your neutrality; I'm
> not saying that's a bad thing (In fact, it's a wonderful thing), but it
> should come as no surprise when your neutrality is mistaken as being for
> "the other side".
>
> It is a sad thing, when a Chronic Pain group gets divided into "factions",
> but it was like that when I got here, and, for some reason, people seem to
> like it! I guess it's sort of like the clique thing; but everyone I know
> here is well past middle school age; like I said, its been that way since
> well before I've been here.
>
> So, I guess I have no answers; I would'nt want to see you change for
> anyone, but I don't like seeing you hurt, either. I've often thought
> about leaving here, but I've found that I can be helpful, and get more
> help, from the short, specific, threads. It is sad that they're always
> the short ones.
>
> Plese, just hang in there, Voice of Compassion-whether you feel it or not,
> you're needed here.
>
>
> -Legend
>


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