A little help??

I have hesitated to put this out on the list as it is so public but I need some help from those of you who battle this on their own.

Pat and I seperated a couple of weeks ago. It is possible we might eventually make it back together but it will not be without some major counselling for him, then us. I am okay with this - actually more than okay. The last 6 years have been a real struggle and we have done some couple counselling etc but lately things are struggling harder. He has moved to his parents home (they just moved into senior care homes) and I have the house. Well the house, the dog and the cat and the huge yard. Bottom line for me is at least 3 - 5 months apart.

I am handling things quite well especially since the rituxan is working and I have energy. Also right now I only have myself to keep happy, no tension etc. However it is a change. A few questions therefore.

Meals I am finding sometimes a struggle. The last couple of days are high pain days (okay my fault - doing too much and did a little gardening when my hips are already screaming). So at the end of the day I sometimes find that dinner seems a struggle and as I am trying to eat healthy it is really a struggle. I keep the brocolli slaw mixture on hand and tonight it is a meat pie (made by our local meals on wheels so little sodium, lots of veggies and I will leave the bottom crust). I made a huge container of chili the other day and ate that in every form made (ground turkey, black bean salsa, kidney beans, chili powder and some frozen veggies - really quick and easy).

I do need though ideas on quick to eat when you are in pain foods. I am trying to avoid bread products as they are an eating trigger for me. I have salad mixtures premade and ready for toppings but like Kate I am avoiding anything I have to stand to do. I am used to cooking for 2 - quick stir fries etc. They just seem too much to make for just me right now. Am trying to avoid sodium products such as premade foods etc. Just need some spur of the moment easy to eat stuff that doesn't require much shopping (a bad word right now).

I know there are other things that are bothering me right now but am tackling some of them on my own. He was occasionally away but of course now it is full time. Because I have the yard, house (although still the housekeeper and I am going to get yardwork as of next week) and the animals (he has offered to take the dog but I am not ready to give him up - he is good company even though a little work and although he won't get a walk he is getting time in the yard - it is fenced.).

this is just a change - not horrible and in a way it is a relief for me. We have been married 31 years (had to check to make sure I hadn't reversed the numbers) and although I am not giving up at the moment it seems pretty impossible that we will get back together. If it happens that we don't I am okay with it. That took a lot of years to get to - he is a great father, a great provider but I really need someone who is happy within himself. Hopefully he will get that way. He didn't cheat, and in his own way loved me. What can I say?

So meal (real quick) ideas - I got some from mom tonight which I will post but am always open to more for single gimp cooking.

Kelly

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