Re: What the hell are we doing wrong

Oh my did you cover a lot of the bases of today's problems. One thing none
of us has said,,,,,,, the medications and the withdrawal from them when
stopped. I think we just do not know the side effects but we can read
about the aftermath.

Harv

"Donna G." <DKGBeeker@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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{{{{{{{{{{ Gary }}}}}}}}}}


You know, Gary, I think Kelly hit on a very key point in her post.
Communication! That is sooooo key as it is in all relations, but most
especially in raising children.

I think it is great that you and Mike can talk about these things and so
many more things.

Yes, you are still the parent and there will be times that Mike thinks
you are the big meanie, but that is what a parents job is: to
communicate, set rules and boundaries, talk openly about things with
your children and let them discuss their feelings as well.

I know that there are millions of incredible parents out there, but here
are just as many who don't communicate with their kids, who don't
monitor what is going on it their lives, who want to be their kids
friends and not the parent, who don't set any type of boundaries, rules,
etc. I also feel like so many kids now adays have been raised sitting
in front of computers and video games and they aren't raised to think
things through or problem solve.

You know, back in our day, you played out doors and tv and such was very
limited. By playing out doors with others, I think you learn more of
the problem solving abilities when you can't agree with the others or
you become more creative in problem solving so that you can continue to
have fun with the neighboring kids.

Then, you would sit down at dinner with your family and talk things
through from the day. Sometimes you solved things, sometimes not, but
you were always communicating. That just doesn't seem to happen as much
these day swith parents and kids.

Yes, this kind of thing has been going on for all of time, and will more
than likely continue to go on for the rest of time, but I do think in
many ways our communities and some parents have let children down by
swinging so far in the direction of not wanting to hurt their childrens
feelings or just ignore their children that the children in the long run
never truly learn the proper ways of working through difficult
situations. It also seems that so many parents now adays don't let
their children suffer the consequences of doing wrong. I hate when I
hear on the news about stories where some kids have destroyed a home or
business or made threats at school, and the parents go on national news
and say, my kid is a good boy, he just is being a kid or he didn't mean
anything by it or boys will be boys etc. What the heck does that teach
the kid?


And yes, our communities does make it way way too easy for people to get
guns and other such weaponry. And our society has made it so that the
criminals many times have more rights than the victims. Something
seriously wrong with that type of thinking.

Last night was horrific to listen about the incident near you and then
listen to the story of the fella hear in michigan who killed his wife
and chopped her up into pieces and now wants the judge to be lenient
with him during his sentencing (he doesn't feel he deserves life in
prison) because his wife wasn't tortured or anything. Oh puleeeeeze!!!

OK, ok, I'm climbing down off my soap box too!!!

Gary, holding you and Mike and your entire community in our hearts and
prayers during this most difficult and painful of times!!!


Hugs,

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Donna
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1.) ANGELS EXIST, but some times, since they don't all have wings, we
call them FRIENDS......


2.) J.K.M.A.



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