Re: Can't keep up with the group

Kate hope you don't mind but this paragraph+ is so "right on the money"
about the way so many of us function that I had to 'spotlight' it.
It is something that I have to work on continuously especially the
"forgiving myself" part. I have printed it out and displayed it in the
middle of my bulletin board.
Thanks for the ...articulation...
johnie


d'huit wrote:
y'know, sweetie, years ago i used to be accused of having just two speeds,
in everything i used to did (and i mean everything) --pedal to the metal
(and that wasn't enough for me, because i was also a perfectionist.) and
full stop

so, late in life, i had to learn not simply to pace myself, but to also say
"no". and that means, not just saying "no" to others, but also, saying "no"
to myself--no matter how much i want to do something that i know would be
energy depleting and/or would increase my pain levels. and for me, the
hardest part was forgiving myself for not being all that i wanted to be and
for not doing all that i wanted to do. but, you know what i
discovered?--that it's ok that i haven't maxed-out my abilities and desires;
and i also discovered that i'm not a mediocre version of myself, even though
i haven't maxed-out. i simply am where i am. and i don't go *splat*
against the wall, as often as i used to.LOL

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