Re: sad news

Oh, Becky,

Please be kind to yourself and remember all the years you two had
together, not one final moment lost.

It's devastating enough to lose your beloved husband, please don't
make the loss worse by feeling guilty. How many hundreds of times
have you spoken to him, made a loving gesture already? He knew
how much he still IS loved.

My cousin died like that at 50, and even with his wife, a nurse,
right at his side when it happened, he died so quickly that even
her nursing skills couldn't help him.

I'm glad you could tell us about it, and we'll be here any time you
need us.


Ginnie >^..^<
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Becky wrote:
I have posted here many times, usually about medicine, this time it is the worst thing for me, not medical at all. My Dear husband of almost 31 years, ( would have been on 9/20) passed away from a massive heart attack this past Thursday. I had come home from work and saw him in the back yard sitting and just starting doing the normal chores, why I didn't go out to talk to him will be a forever quilt problem with me, anyway made his dinner and did a few things, went out to get him for dinner and found him laying in the side of the gravel up against the garage wall and he had died. He had no pulse and was purple, I did cpr along with the neighbor while the ambulance came but it was too late. He was only 54, way to young to die, I am so crushed I don't know what to do, the pain is so intense and the quilt that I should have went out and talked to him is consuming me alive.
I just needed to get this out to someone, I have a lot of family but don't want to upset them, we had two boys ages 29 27 and they both live here in town for which I am grateful.
I had to have him cremated because we had no life insurance and that was the most economical way to go, I wasn't sure that I even believed in it.
I know that life will get easier but right now I can't imagine how, I miss him with all my heart and hope he knew how very much he was loved by all. Both of us would have celebrated birthdays in October also, and he was getting ready to retire.
Thanks for letting me express myself
Becky


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