Re: About My Mom
- From: "d'huit" <threecedars1@xxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Thu, 26 Jan 2006 22:17:01 -0800
(((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) my sincere condolences to
you and your family in your loss. you and your family are in my thoughts.
your brother is in a state of shock and is trying to cope with it and the
loss in the only way he is able to right now. even though we might expect
these kinds of things, when the reality occurs, it still affects us in
profoundly unpredictable ways, physically, mentally and emotionally. it's a
difficult time, no doubt. for some, anger offers a necessary sense of
strength and power, when in a powerless situation.
take good care of yourself, sweetie.
lovingly,
kate
"DianeW" <DiWitt@xxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:1138286997.810665.116480@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I know I should have posted sooner but as you can imagine, it's been a
stressful not to mention hectic time. I wanted to let you all know that
Mom passed away peacefully on Saturday. As most of you knew, she had
been recently hospitalized with sepsis and went into complete kidney
failure in a matter of days. She remained critical for most of the
week. We had her transferred back to the nursing home on Saturday
afternoon where she died in her sleep three hours later. My sister and
I were with here at the time, cleaning out her drawers and joking with
her even though she was unconscious. We had just found her stash of
chocolate and bingo quarters that she kept hidden and were teasing her
about that. We had both just been laughing about Mom hiding them. We
looked over at her and she was gone. Just like that. I am very glad
that at the actual moment of her passing, it was so gentle. She had a
few rough days prior to that in the hospital which was why we had
waited to have her transfered. Her doctor was wonderful with keeping
her comfortable. We think she was waiting to be home. She had lived
there for two years and both her regular nurses were there with her and
she was unconnected to any machines except oxygen. It was how she
wanted it to be. She always said she wanted to go in her sleep. And
she got her wish.
My sister was with me until yesterday. We made the funeral
arrangements and did all that stuff that has to be done together. It
was nice to have her with me for that. My brother on the other hand
went balistic afterwards and was very hateful, screaming and yelling
about things that had nothing to do with her passing. He wanted to
have her funeral on Tuesday and that was just unrealistic considering
that we couldn't even get the cremains back by then and the majority of
the family lives out of town. That set him off and it was downhill from
there. It's not the first time he's done something like this but its
still very diffucult to deal with none the less. He kept it together in
the hospital so at least he was supportive then.
The services aren't going to be until Feb 10th to give the out of town
family time to get here. The Catholic Diocese here in Orlando has a new
rule that you can no longer have a eulogy at the church so it will only
be a mass and we are working on an alternative for the eulogy. We are
not having a viewing so that's not an option for the eulogy either. I
was thinking of a written eulogy to be put into the Mass brochure that
we hand out at the church. Any ideas?
Thanks for all the surpport you have given me here. And all the prayers
for Mom throughout her illnesses. It has meant a lot to me knowing
that I have the ASA angels behind me.
Cyberhugs.....Diane
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