Re: prosthesis pockets in bras

On Jun 21, 4:35 pm, Doreen <dhend...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Mignon wrote:
I think you're absolutely right about the decisions we make; I belong to a
support group where we talk about our values and deal with the impact that
breast cancer has had on our self-esteem. In our group, others -- society,
family, friends, husbands and lovers wield quite a bit of influence. There
are 33 of us -- two of us are double amputees.

Of the remaining 31, 17 had reconstructive surgery and of those 17, 14 say
that if they had it to do again, they wouldn't -- 13 have confessed that
they had the surgery more for their husbands/significant others than
themselves; the other says she didn't feel like a woman until she had the
surgery but regrets it just the same.

The other fourteen opted for prostheses and say they're fine with their
decisions to wear them. Interesting enough the two of us who have no breasts
wanted no parts of the surgery. We wear our prostheses only when our clothes
dictate the need for them. We've recently decided that we will be modifying
some of our duds so that we will need them even less -- especially in the
summer..

Sadly I lost a very good friend to breast cancer recently because she
refused to have surgery, stating that if she lost her breast, it would be
like losing her femininity. Friends and family could not convince her that
she was worth far more than the sum of two breasts. I walked in her honor
during the Race for the Cure.

BTW: I've been single for 21 years, and my fiancé met me with no breasts. He
recently confessed that before me, he had been a real "breast" man, but
became aware early on that he didn't miss them. We met at the hospital where
we were undergoing treatment -- he for prostate cancer and I for my
breast.cancer.

I wear eyeglasses, have a partial dental plate, two prostheses, and was
wearing different styles of scarves on my bald head when we were becoming
acquainted -- would've gone bald, but it was winter, and I couldn't stand
it. When we made the decision to become intimate, to break the ice I simply
asked, "Would you rather sleep on the night stand with all of the goodies or
in the bed with me?" It's our personal joke, and we still laugh about it
occasionally.

After that it was on, and now into our 13th year, it's all good. I guess it
just depends on the individual(s).

What an uplifting post. Thank you.

Doreen in Alabama



I line my own bras because the others are so expensive. I found a
shoulder pad that was just the right size and used it for a pattern,
cutting two of them.. I left one side - nearest the underarm - open
enough to stuff the prosthesis inside. I have started wearing the
Bosom Buddy forms because they are light weight and less expensive.
My insurance company covers them. If you haven't seen them go to http://
www.bosombuddy.com. A lot of women on the AOL Just Us board also use
them. I have found a light weight cotton knit fabric that works
fine. I've also bought some of those athletic (bikers) bras and made
a pocket for the form. I wear these under tee shirts and find they
are lots more comfortable than regular bras. They don't give great
support but they hold you so tight it doesn't matter ... I started
using them when I was fresh out of the hospital because they were more
comfortable.



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