10 tips on how to be a successful husband






10 tips on how to be a successful husband


1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.

When was the last time we men went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just
like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants
her
husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Prophet Muhammad (peace
be upon him) would always start with Miswak when returning home and
always loved the sweetest smells.


2. Use the cutest names for your wife.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) had nicknames for his wives, ones that
they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid
using names that hurt their feelings.


3. Don't treat her like a fly.

We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us.
Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention
from
the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her
like this. Recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.


4. If you see wrong on the part of your wife, try being silent and do
not comment!

This is one of the ways the Prophet (peace be upon him) used when he
would see something inappropriate from his wives (may Allah be pleased
with them). It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.


5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often.

Smiling is charity and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.
Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also
those
Ahadith when the Prophet (peace be upon him) would kiss his wife
before
leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.


6. Thank her for all that she does for you.

Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She
makes
the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And
sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed
to
be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!


7. Ask her to write down the last 10 things you did for her that made
her happy.

Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your
wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and
work
on repeating those times in your life.


8. Don't belittle her desires.

Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of
their
wives. The Prophet (peace be upon him) set the example for us in an
incident when Safiyyah (may Allah be pleased with her) was crying
because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her
tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.


9. Be humorous and play games with your wife.

Look at how the Prophet (peace be upon him) would race with his wife
Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) in the desert. When was the
last
time we did something like that?


10. Be the best.

Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him):
"The
best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the
best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!






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