Re: Christian Men

You should know better then to meet insane men on the internet. I would have lost my temper with him but you actually did the best thing you could do in a situation like that. you kept your cool and he made a complete fool of himself. Congratulations.

"Seeking Balance" <socalallie@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message news:e987002a-d319-4342-a4b0-46edfb34e7d6@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I had a really odd experience recently. "Met" a Christian man via the
net, exchanged a number of emails and talked on the phone numerous
times. Based on a number of things he said on the phone, I got the
impression that maybe he had some personality issues...but, I like to
give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove to me there is
reason to cut them lose. He seemed harmless enough and I agreed to
meet him, locally, at a very public spot for a bite to eat on a Sat.
early evening.

Sat. is always a little busy for me. I help out with my elderly
parents who live about 35 miles no. of me. Between the drive and the
time spent with them, it takes about 3 hours. Did that, ran some
errands and got home in time to put on some makeup, brush my teeth,
change into something more appropriate for a casual dinner and headed
for the ATM and dinner. (We had agreed to go dutch for our first
meeting.)

Got to the dinner spot (his choice) and realized it was really more of
a "to go" place vs. a quiet spot to sit, eat and share conversation.
Quite crowded also, I could see through the big windows in front,
about 15 people in line to place their order when I arrived. No
biggie, that, to me, is a sign that they have great food! But, I kind
of wondered how we'd sit down to eat and talk...

I was a little early (5 or so min.), so called this fellow on his cell
to let him know I was there and would meet him in front when he
arrived. He was just parking and for whatever reason, his voice
sounded a little bummed. I met him in front of the place, and walked
inside right away for two reasons; it was COLD outside and since it
was so crowded, I figured it might be good to get in line right away
since I hadn't eaten in about 7 hours and was fairly hungry.

We stood in line, me trying to make conversation (asking him how his
day went, wondered how his daughter was doing, quickly apologized for
my hair not being perfect ;-) due to my slightly rushed day, etc.).
He gave me one word answers and seemed...not sure of the right word to
describe it...seemed slightly annoyed. No smile, no warmth or
happiness to his voice, etc. I began to think maybe he didn't want to
be there. Maybe he was disappointed in what he saw (he'd seen a
current picture of me already and I am by no means an ugly woman ;-).
But, his demeanor suggested something wasn't to his liking. Tis okay
by me, nice to make new friends, have a good conversation, enjoy a
meal and part when done. No biggie. That's what first meetings are
for, to see if there is enough "spark" to further connect, or not.

After standing in line, trying to chat a little, he says "let's step
outside". Oohhhhhkay. Public place, well lit, LOTS of people milling
about so I am not concerned about him doing anything illegal. We step
outside. Am thinking maybe he's decided I am not to his liking, or
maybe the place is more crowded than he is comfortable with and he
wants to move to the Marie Cal's next door.

Noooooo, he proceeds to chastise me.

(All his words)

How dare I show up and not greet him appropriately!
How dare I make apologies for not having more time to get ready for
our meeting...after all, we'd planned it in advance!
How rude of me & disrespectful of me! If "this is how I operate"
maybe we are not a good match!

Whoa. I was stunned and really didn't know how to respond. I let him
rant for a bit and said, "I think you are reading too much into this
situation". "I wasn't trying to be rude or disrepsectful, but I did
have a busy day and was offering an explanation of why I wasn't as
"put together" as I normally am." Sorry if that offended you.

He began to rant again, and I was getting a little nervous so finally
said "hey, am sorry if you feel that way...have a nice holiday, take
care" and headed for my car.


What a nut!!!! Seems very unChristian to me.

.

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