Re: Respect

Great post, Mary! You're right about respect, too. Everyone here deserves
our respect, excluding those nasty trolls recently, and we all need to
remember that we're in this together.

Your job sounds pretty stressful. I thought I had a stressful job! I miss
working and especially miss the people I worked with, but I don't miss
having to get up and drag myself to work when I felt so shitty. It's nice
to be able to just go back to bed, or take 2 naps or not do the dishes for 2
days if I don't feel up to it. I don't miss the aggravations at work,
either. The tugs of war between bosses, people who craved power, etc. That
stress is delightfully gone. :)

And I always love the voice of reason when things get riled up. Thank you!

René



"Mary501" <mary.lloyd@xxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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I live in the real world, I work in the real world, I travel in the
real world. My job is more stressful and involves more true conflict
than any other person I have met, male or female. I have learned much
about conflict and how to resolve things without resorting to name
calling, bullying, or low blows.

If what people say is really what they want to say and how they want to
say it, then be aware that someone may take a thought the wrong way.
How can people really listen if what someone says is full of anger &
hatred?

I would like to think that a post in this ng contains something useful.
I don't consider it truly useful if all it does is let someone vent
unfairly against someone here. It's not right that someone has to
suffer while someone else feels better for doing something destructive.


Also, doesn't the venter want his/her message to be heard as well as
understood? If I can't get past the anger contained in the message
from the "poster", then how can I really read and understand the
message?

I'm hoping Janey is OK after I read what certain people have posted in
response to some of her posts. I know she and others here do their
research and quote sources properly. Plus, they give their point of
view which doesn't offend or interfere with anyone else's experience
with their own FM/CFS. This is truly a fine art and I see no reason to
vent against her or others like her here.

Why can't people just agree to disagree on certain points? This isn't
a contest and no one should have to take sides.

Exercise and diet do make MY symptoms disappear for a brief time (on &
off) when I am diligent, but I am human so diligence compared to others
who live a "normal life" is difficult, thus I have symptoms and thus
have FMS/CFS. This is my experience anyways.

When I see the posts which have been on here, I am offended firstly
because they seem to minimize my own suffering and secondly because
they also involve defensive bullying at someone else's expense. They
aren't posting their references, only saying this is the truth and
saying it is so.

Some people are now slagging me off here, even when I was in my mind on
their side.

I am asking for a little respect here, because I think I've earned it.
I certainly show respect to everyone here whether or not I agree with
their point of view. We are civilized, no? then why slag me off for
asking people to think a little before posting? A little consideration
goes a long way.

I'm still quite green here but not so new that I would be considered a
"newbie". The slaggers prefer to not Read Between The Lines, but
rather, Make Up Their Own Lines; they misconstrue things a lot, but
it's really to get their own point across and try to make the other
person (me) look stupid.

But actually, I have a very thick skin and I know I'm not stupid. I
could be angry and show it if I choose to, but I won't. It won't solve
my condition and I can't change anyone's actions toward me, I can only
change MY reaction to it. I thank those of you who do still practice
the golden rule and do show respect and caring; for continuing to be
there for those of us who appreciate useful input on our medical
conditions.



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