Re: just venting

hi nina

thanks...here it is tonight and i am up again at 145 but i DID get 3
hours sleep first..and i have hopes of later..
lol...hubby has 2 brothers..very similar to him but both quite happily
married<g>sorry...
yes i do that....lie down and relax even if i cant nap..one time a
day..maybe i should go for twice<g>..tonight the crohns acted up as
well andi ended up sick to my stomach right before going to bed..didnt
need THAT...but i think tonight wont be such a late one..hopefully...i
am yawning already...
thanks again
annie
Nina,Princess of Pain wrote:
Hi Annie, does your husband have a brother? Sounds like you have been lucky
in that dept. Of course it sounds like you deserve it after not having any
support for so long.
The sleeping thing is a big issue for most of us. I've found that even if I
can't nap,if I lay down and completely relax, mind and body, once or twice
thru the day it helps with the fatigue a little.

Doing a good thing for people is great.I think it helps us feel better about
ourselves and thethings we can't do.
You seem to have a great attitude and I think that helps too.
Hope you have great day,Nina

"annie" <annieluvrose@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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hi caitriona(kitten)

i am SO glad you could use my vent to do some of your
own!!(((((((((kitten))))))))
its so hard when people dont listen or dont understand....i guess u are
talking about your illness?....i grew up probably having crohns but i
was accused by my mother and my pediatrician of "faking tummy aches" to
get attention...(never mind that i had diarrhea about 15 times a
day..no one asked about that..or the joint pains etc)..so i know what
its like to not be heard!..and to feel so horrible...
i guess i have basically stopped getting into rages<G>..hubby number
one was almost the end of me..but was actually the beginning of the NEW
me...after making me feel useless(since i had to stop working) and a
burden....we split and hubby number two is the kindest, most gentle
person in the world...he is not ill..no one in his family has a chronic
illness(except my sister in law..who has fibro but doesnt deal with it
at all..wish i could get her on this group)...but somehow my husband
knows how to help me thru the pain..he massages my back(or head, or
hips or whatever is hurting)...he sits in the bathroom with me when i
have a hot bath if i am not feeling well....he takes me to all doc
appointments(i cant drive..seizure disorder)...he works all day and if
i am really in bad shape(i ALWAYS have dinner made..somehow..i love
cooking)..he will serve it and clean up after...so my raging has
ended..it doesnt matter if no one else believes how i am feeling(tho i
must admit my rheumy is wonderful..he totally KNOWS this) and my gi is
great too ..and my internist doesnt always understand the pain but he
is willing to help me out anyway...
as for people who dont understand...or wont listen...they arent worth
it...i have basically cut myself off from anyone(including family
members) who arent supportive..i dont need criticism or even
advice(unless its from someone who really knows something)..i have
found that life is way too short to put up with garbage from some
people...i treasure the people who DO try to understand...most of my
family and some of my friends...and of course people like u on this
group...and am just happy that i am not totally alone struggling with
pain, side effects from meds....all the crohns symptoms(joint pain,
tummy pain, diarrhea, nausea etc)...as well as the fibro
pain...especially the sleeplessness...i got 4 hours last night<g>...and
someone is coming ot the house to day to do something so i m afraid i
have to be up..grrrr..
calm down and focus on the good people u have...however few they are...
i hvent been following this group for too long so i am not really
familiar with who u are connected with ..family wise...
i have another "rule" for myself...each day i try to do one positive
thing for another person..no matter how bad i am feeling...it could be
sending someone a b day card..or an email..or making a phone
call..sometimes when i am really really ill..its just putting someone's
name in my prayer basket..but each day i want to do something for
another person..some kind of giving...because i seem to receive so
much..i want to be a giver...not just a taker...i try to do stuff for
hubby even when i am not feeling well..even if its just getting him his
dinner...or helping him out with a problem...whatever...
i hope this finds you feeling better today...
yesi am glad this group is here...last night i didnt want to wake
hubby...he had to get up early for work(tho today he is working from
home)...and he had a headache yesterday(rare for him)...he has been
under a lot of stress with a very ill mother and a job change...so i
want to be a support to him..not a hindrance...
u did your "good thing" for today...you posted this and it already made
me feel better!!
so thank you so much for writing...i can feel your support..
where do u live? i live in boston mass
its hot and muggy yet again here...i wish it would cool off already!
take care
annie
Caitriona Mac Fhiodhbhuidhe wrote:
annie wrote:
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{{{{{{annie}}}}}}

just felt like venting..thanks for listening...


That's what we're here for.

hope people on here are feeling better than i am...


I'm surprised I slept at all last night. I went to bed feeling an
absolute rage building, but I was able to head it off and get some
sleep. I'm getting sooooo tired of getting angry over just the
slightest little incident of someone not hearing/listening to what I'm
saying to them. It's like I've totally lost the ability to blow it off
when I keep having to repeat myself or not be heard.

Went to another of my groups to try to work out what's going on inside
me, and wouldn't ya know it! - got what seems to me the same responses
I'm getting IRL - either told my perceptions are wrong or totally
ignored altogether. ARGH!!

I'm so tired of everyone expecting *me* to be there to offer support to
*them*, but when I need support, it's just soooo.... I dunno. I'm
tired of having to back up and say things over and over, in umpteen
different ways to try to get it across clearly to whomever it is I'm
talking to. Is that so wrong?

Anyhow... sorry, didn't mean to derail your rant.

I'm feeling fairly well this morning (or was until I started my own
rant in your rant thread <sigh>). We'll see how things are at the end
of the day. Today's payday, which means all Chewy's check goes to pay
everyone else. Blah! It's road-trip day.

I hope you're feeling better. Get some rest!!!

Kitten




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