Re: Today's "Little" Frustration
- From: "dingalingdeb" <ding@xxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 25 Apr 2006 06:23:34 GMT
Hey Kitten; you could save your own nails by buying fake ones - these you
could just eat right out of the box LOL
dingaling deb
My wild oats have turned to prunes and All Bran.
"What's Up!" <earthpots@xxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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Caitriona (GoddessKitten) Mac Fhiodhbhuidhe wrote:
Our small local farmers market started back up today, so I went there
instead of going with Chewy to the one in Austin. It was really slow
(read calm and soothing), especially since a lot of our regular
customers don't know we're open yet.
One of the regular customers who stopped by is a doctor. Really nice
man.
I got up the nerve to ask him where he practices. He's local. So
then I took a deep breath and got up my courage.
I asked him if he'd heard of AS. He's heard of it, knows "it's a mild
form of autism." I asked him if he knows anyone in our area who's
familiar with it.
When it got around to my telling him that it's for me, he looked at me
oddly. So, of course, I start blabbering on about how I need to find
someone to help me improve my coping skills, etc. He turned back to
the other vendor there today (just two of us today) and started
talking gardening.
Before he left, I asked him again if he could let me know if he thinks
of anyone who's familiar with AS and works with AS patients. His
response:
"Do you really think you have it? From seeing you here, I've not seen
any symptoms."
The guy sees me at most once a week, for 10-20 minutes,
April-November. It's at a small venue, at most 10 vendors, so it's
calm and relaxing. Not a whole lot of traffic, and the traffic we do
have comes slowly, nothing to overwhelm. A busy day there,
traffic-wise, is similar to a slow day at the market Chewy works.
What's he expecting? Someone who has no communication skills at all?
Complete meltdowns? What?
I was taught very early on to keep (as much as I can) a smile
plastered to my face when in public. Keep perseverations,
nail-biting, stimming, etc at as low a level as possible. Don't let
people see when the things they're doing are bothering you (which is
getting harder and harder, especially with loud noises).
Because I was taught to keep a mask in place, people can't usually see
the internal meltdowns. So what should I do? Throw a big temper
tantrum while he's at the market? I DON'T THINK SO!!!
Sheeesh!
OK, just needing to vent that to folks who will understand.
Kitten
Most doctors are clueless when it comes AS. And, many adults don't exhibit
symptoms in public, because they have learned to adapt and cope. Trying to
find a reputable mental health professional who is able to diagnose AS is
like looking for a needle in a haystack. I've been trying, and very few
can diagnose AS in adults. My childhood is full of classic symptoms; I
have test scores, report cards, medical reports, all from my school years.
My father's side of the family is full of eccentrics, loners, and bright
but not very social people. No one has ever been diagnosed but the
behavior is all there. Every screener says I have AS, but like you, in
public I have a different personna so I blend in and look 'normal' to
NT's. I'm not surprised at all that the doctor reacted as he did.
--
Carol
Contessa of Consternation
Known to leave foes discombobulated
Autistic Spectrum Code v.1.0
AS? d- s--:+ a+ c+ p+ t-- f S+ p@- e+ h- r- n+(-) i+ P m-() M
http://www32.brinkster.com/ascdecode/decode.asp
"I have run rings around you logically". Monty Python
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