Re: worst three weeks of my life, missed music, guitars.

I truly am sorry to hear about your mothers passing.
I've seen more dead loved ones than I care to remember. It never affected
me in a negative way. Even as a child I was realistic about the whole thing
and realized that the body is just a husk that holds the soul.
You wont understand what being all alone is until you've lost your father
as well. Death is thought of as a sorrowful thing by most people but it
really shouldnt be.
You're free from the pain and grief that you carry while walking the Earth.
A soul doesnt die. To the atheists out there.. Calling yourself one is easy
when you're young ,healthy and invincable.

"Grinner" <grinner@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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my mother pased away on 6/03/08. my dad rang me and it was the worst phone
call of my life. mum passed away aeound 4:30pm while he was driving her to
hospital, she was drowsy the day he left in the morning, he was attending
radiotherapy, four days to go. he got home and mum was very drowsy so he
took her to hospital, she passed away in the car. i drove through the town
on the way to be with him that night.

NEVER see a loved one after they have passed away.

i stopped at the hospital i just had to know, it is just such an indignant
way we end life, on a tray in a refrigerator. i broke down briefly and
hugged her and kissed her goodbye and then drove on to be with my dad. we
hugged and cried and i walked into the house, her knitting was still on
the arm of her armchair. she was 66. i slept on the couch and dad's dog
came and slept by my side all night, he seldom wants to come inside bar
thunderstorms. poor little bugger he knew.
mum never had good health, she had kidney problems since she was a child
and had a heart scare about 10 years ago. she smoked. about a month or so
ago i went to see them, she was drowsy then so i got her to hospital, she
fell about six months ago and cracked her pelvis and was in a lot of pain,
she could not lie down to sleep so when she got out of hospital she slept
uprihgt in her armchair. fluid built up in her legs and they needed
dressing so the community nurse used to come out to the farm. when i took
her to hospital last time, they put her on the ECG and all they said was
'it wasn't flash'. they said she was dehydrated as they had her on limited
fluid intake due to the fluid build up in her legs, thinking that was all
it was she checked herself out. a week later she died. the doctor tied to
talk her into staying but she was as stubborn as she was weak. her pelvis
was healing and she was starting to become more mobile. she was only 66
and there was no way it was going to beat her.
she was cremated on the 14th march at Taree NSW. my concern is for my dad
who is just devastaed and is blaming himself. often if one goes the other
isn't far behind. mum's sister is great, she rings dad daily to check on
him, i've been there with him for the last three weeks but i have to work
as well. i know she is not just at peace but at joy as well, i know she is
happy now and with us but my dad doesn't have the faith i do.

again, my advice, never see a loved one after they have passed away.



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