Re: How to politely turn down a gig

Jess Band-ee-Coot wrote:
Jim Carr wrote:
Jess Band-ee-Coot wrote:

I did reiterate that, and it didn't help my case.
He insisted that he liked my playing, and felt it would work for this project. Really, the only way out was to admit that the music did not move me, and that's what I tried to clarify in the email I sent
(which did not get a response yet)

Are you a pushover, is the other guy pushy, or is it a combination thereof? You don't need a "case" to justify not joining his band. You are under no obligation to discuss the reasons why. You may feel obligated as a friend, but your friend has an even stronger obligation to leave it alone when you say you don't want to get into it.



Well, in his defense, I was somewhat wishy-washy when he put me on the spot and asked me to *clarify* why I thought it wasn't a good fit.
As I said earlier, I back-peddled and never came out and said
that I didn't care for the style of the music.




That still sounds pushy to me. I don't have to justify myself to my friends, nor they to me. ("clarify" = "justify", and that's a very aggressive attitude)

-Raf

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