Re: Giving Notice (to a band)


"BW" <barrybassist@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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On Aug 2, 5:28 pm, "Don" <ra...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
"Jonathan" <jonat...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message

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Hey guys,
I am having a lot of problems with a band I have been working with
for
several months and I'm at the point where enough is enough. Next week
I
am going to tell them that I will play through the month but come
September I am done. I'll offer to fill in if they have trouble
finding a
replacement but we'll have to negotiate beyond this month on a
gig-by-gig
basis dependant on my schedule.
This is a professional thing, not a group of buddies playing for
fun.
So my question is: how do you think it should be handled? In person
after
a gig? Before or after a rehearsal? By phone, by e-mail? They are
not
treating me in a respectful way at all so I have to be professional but
I
am not going out of my way to be accommodating for them.
As soon as I reached the decision I got a call to go do an audition
tonight and I was offered the gig starting next month. They don't work
enough for me (3-5 gigs a month instead of the 8-12 I want) but they
are a
lot of fun and super nice people so I think I will offer to play with
them
at least for a while, until I find something to keep me busy. On my
way
out the door for the audition the band leader (from the band I am about
to
leave) called to tell me: "Hey man if you see any ads up saying I am
looking for a bass player don't freak out. I want to hire some subs in
case there are conflicts so I am putting ads up for every position in
the
band." I've never had a gig conflict or given him any indication that
I
would have a conflict requiring a sub in the future. Does he think I
was
born yesterday?!
What do you guys think?
-Jonathan

I would send an email and have my biggest freinds go and get my equipment
the hell outa there................shits gonna hit the fan if you go face
to
face. You a good fighter??? This situation will certainly come to blows.
Best of luck.


Really? Is that the world you live in, where quiting a band (or any
gig) is a precursor to a physical confrontation? Really? I can't
imagine living my life that way. Sad. Hope you're kidding.
BW

Yeah, that sort of thing doesn't happen even in the redneck part of the
country that I live in.
I did see a fight in a band once, but it was at rehearsal.The bass player
kept turning around and hitting the guitar player in the head with the neck
of his bass. After the fourth time it happened, the guitar player smacked
the bass player upside his head and the fight was on, though both took the
time to set their instruments down before commencing to beat each other's
heads in. Everybody else just sat down and watched the fight, and after five
minutes or so of fisticuffs, they picked their instruments back up and
started rehearsal again as if nothing had happened. I found out afterwards
that these two guys had been playing together off and on for fifteen years
and they averaged getting into a fight at rehearsal about once a year.


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