Re: Giving Notice (to a band)
- From: "js" <NOSPAM@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Thu, 2 Aug 2007 00:46:22 -0400
Yeah, and the reason it's better is because you have NOTHING invested in it,
emotionally or otherwise. Show up. Play. Get paid. Go home.
You've become the dreaded MERCENARY.
Feels pretty good, don't it?
I'd also like to comment on the "sub" thing - if this parting is less than
amicable, there is NO WAY he should kiss their ass in hopes of "subbing".
First off, if they didn't respect you as a bandmate, why should they respect
you enough to pinch hit?
Second, the only time they are going to call you is when they are
DESPERATE - which most likely means the gig pays shit or is way out of town,
and no one else will take it. Or it means their new bassplayer got busted
for meth possessition again this afternoon...
Third, Even if they do realize they made a serious mistake in letting you
go, they're not going to kiss your ass to come back.
What I would do is play out the final gigs as professionally as possible,
then close the door on that chapter of your life. If/when they call you to
sub, give them your ultimate "fuck you" price - what you think the time and
aggravation of playing with them again is REALLY worth. When they balk, tell
them you're not in the band anymore, and that's what you are charging these
days as a freelancer (true or not).
One of 2 things will happen: They will either swear a blue streak at you,
slam the phone down, and never call you again, or
The will swear a blue streak at you, slam the phone down, call you back 10
min later and agree to your terms (along with a serious guilt trip). Then
you will FINALLY have the respect they should have given you before, albeit
grudgingly.
It's win/win.
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"Todd H." <bmiawmb@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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Neil N <daltonmusic@xxxxxxxxxx> writes:http://myspace.com/mytriplethreatband
Most importantly, don't contribute to any bad vibes, you want to be
second call as one of those "subs". Time heals all, and I'[m sure a
few months down the line you'll be pleased to do the occasional gig
with them.
Indeed. It's amazing how much "doing it less" seems to ameliorate
reasons for leaving. The less often you have to deal with the band
and the grind of gigging so often, the happier you'll be do perform
with them as a sub just for variety's sake.
I've been limping along subbing with my current band for months this
way and pretty happy doing so now that rehearsal isn't a weekly thing,
and shows are once a month. For me, that's the sweet spot right now,
but I just gave notice that my open ended subbing once a month offer
has a September expiration date because changes in the Real Job have
necessitated more schedule flexibility and demanding more time.
I think I may have also found them a replacement to boot, but these
guys are my friends and I'd like it to stay that way.
Obviously Jonathan's situation is different though.
Best Regards,
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