Re: PING: spiritrising


spiritrising wrote:
> nope guess again, still have all my friends who haven't died yet, still talk
> to them, still assoiciate with them, some are poor some are filthy rich some
> just are, nothing has changed in them, nothing ever will. and the talks
> haven't changed either, even tho some have left their drug habits, beleive
> it or not i still have my tracks too! different drug than yours, but still a
> drug, they still call me and i still fly out some times and see them. winter
> is the best time i am closer to them. anyone know phil morningstar? he is
> still kicking it, and has only got older like me. and i am mean still too,
> just takes more to set me off and instead of killing or beating i go to the
> woods, as probally woodstock could remember and speak of. spiritrising

LOL! Yeah, I can dig it. The fly swatter. -woodstock-

>
> "Connie" <sanzo1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> > "woodstock" <thirdwavevisions@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> >>
> >> Carla wrote:
> >> > Frankly, I don't see how being a sweetheart in person makes it okay for
> > someone
> >> > to treat people like shit online. It may be a game to some, but the
> > damage is
> >> > very real. Meanness sucks, regardless of the motivation. SR is not
> > welcome in my
> >> > home, and never will be, any more than Bill is.
> >>
> >>
> >> He'd be welcome in mine- but I see your point. I am truly baffled at
> >> the online personality difference. I really don't know what to make of
> >> it. -woodstock-
> >>
> >
> > It (the personality) is actually familiar to me. As a lifelong
> > people-watcher (with lots of subjects being a big-city baby-boomer), and
> > growing up in the "Age of Amateur Psychology", I've noted this type
> > before.
> >
> > Some people will display incredible amounts of generousity and caring to
> > others, as long as the "other" is a person who is needier than they. As
> > an
> > out-of-control drug/alcohol addict for most of my life, I've been the
> > recipient of this type's compassionate grandiosity. The giver gets to
> > feel
> > better about her/himself, effectively elevating their rather low
> > self-esteem
> > by their positioning themself in a position to render aid to the "poor
> > victim".
> >
> > What surprised me when I sobered up, was how my years-long caregivers'
> > (read
> > enablers') attitudes changed. The better I got and did for myself, the
> > less
> > interest there was in maintaining a friendship. Being on a "more-equal"
> > footing, I now presented an uncomfortable comparison for them. 30+ yr
> > friendships drifted away, now that I no longer had the recurring dire
> > straits sydrome going.
> >
> > When I was a drunk and did the 3am collect phone calls to cry out in
> > anguish
> > about some other self-caused crisis, they'd be right there for me,
> > offering
> > sympathy and reassurances. Now if I want to share how good life has
> > become,
> > it's boring to them. I instead listen to them speak gleefully of other
> > n'er-do-wells who are receiving their assistance.
> >
> > I took my observations and ponderances a step further and realized my own
> > mother was of the same type. Whenever I was in need - no matter that I
> > brought it on myself - she was right there to salve my wounds. No sooner
> > did I learn to stand up straight on my own, she became bored with my life.
> >
> > I believe s'rising to be of this type. People who don't need his services
> > can be somewhat of a threat to his somewhat fragile ego; while those in
> > crisis who benefit from his largess are actually impacting his self-worth
> > and providing positive reinforcement for those behaviors.
> >
> >
> >
> >

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